How to build the perfect Social Dance

One of the biggest concerns that every leader has, is how to build the “perfect” dance experience for their follower. Here are some tips and pointers on how to do that.


1. There is need for clear parts: the beginning, the middle part and the finale.

Much like a story, a dance should have a clear starting point. An introduction, if you will, followed by the main part of the dance where you make your point. That is where the story unfolds between the two partners and the magic happens. All you need now is a finale. Not an extravagant pose or anything like that, but more of a cooling down and a more gentle approach to your dancing.

2. Take some time to get to know your partner.

This does not necessarily mean that you both need to talk for long, before you ask the other person for a dance. Basically, when you start to dance with a partner, you might not know their dancing skills level, or if they are having a bad day or how tired they are. So, take a few seconds in the beginning to find things out, while you are dancing.

A few simple moves can do the trick and give you an idea of how you can built up your dance later on.

3. Listen to the music.

You might often wonder “how should I know when it is appropriate to dance more or less intensely?” Keep in mind that each time, you dance to a specific song, and a song is never flat. Every song has ups and downs, highs and lows and it can carry you away and help you build your dance accordingly.

4. Give your partner the space and time to express themselves.

Although you are the leader, you need to remember that you share the same need and joy with your partner for dancing. Therefore, you need to let them express their desires and maybe the opportunity to choose some new moves to try with you. So, avoid strangling their creativity just because you want to do “your thing” all the time.

5. Try to surprise your partner.

Yes, you should! Yet, not all the time… but making a move or two that will surprise them pleasantly (!) is going to give this extra “flavor” to your dance and make it stand out from the rest. Also, if you do so, you are bound to get the biggest smile from your partner, and that is what it is all about 🙂

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